When Sex Doesn't Satisfy

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With or without sex, it is important to remember that you are the same person. Sex problems are often not normally due to physical reasons but to psychological ones and can cause emotional suffering and distress within a relationship. Here we explore some of the reasons.

Painful sex - and not the kinky kind!

Women can sometimes experience pain during lesbian sex and the main cause is usually down to penetration. An unstretched hymen could be the cause as well as lack of lubrication, and infection or Pelvic Pain Syndrome, often caused by stress.

Lack of arousal can also be to blame as it is likely to cause lack of lubrication.

Vaginal Dryness

If you or your partner is not getting quite wet enough down there, then don't worry because it may just mean that you or her are not sufficiently aroused - which can occur for all sorts of reasons, such as inadequate foreplay, nervousness, anxiety, or the changes your body goes through as you get older.

Some women can get wetter than others which is perfectly natural and does not necessarily indicate that they are not turned on or interested. There are plenty of water-based lubricants on the market to help with this, however if problems persist, consult your doctor.

Lesbian Bed Death - (And no, not the band... and yes, there is one!)

Although it is widely thought of as a myth, Lesbian Bed Death, often referred to as LBD, is a term used to describe the supposedly inevitable diminishment of sexual passion in long term lesbian relationships.

Well, there is nothing wrong with lesbians not having sex, or having it infrequently, however if you think your relationship is suffering from LBD then try out our tips for a more fulfilling sex life with your woman:

  • Be nice - If you're bickering about washing up or hovering then you ain't gonna get any.
  • Set a date - Spending time together and enjoying each other's company may mean you are more relaxed with each other and more likely to feel in the mood.
  • Act out your fantasy - Maybe it's joining the mile high club or bonking in broad daylight... give in to yourself and give it a go.
  • Watch porn - For many, nothing makes them hornier than watching other people get it on, whether they're gay or straight.