Sexual Behaviour

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We are going to take a very brief look at some sexual activities that some people may label as extreme and others may see as perfectly reasonable. As with everything, what you choose to do in the privacy of your own environment, whilst remaining in the bounds of the law, is your choice and we hope you would chose to do it as safely as possible.

As with all sexual matters, talk it over with your partner and explain what it is you want exactly and where you draw the line. If you feel uncomfortable in any way, then don't do it.

Anal sex

We've all probably thought about it from time to time, but anal sex can be taboo for some lesbians. If you do decide to try it, then it's best to approach it with and open mind. If done properly, anal sex shouldn't be too painful or messy and you can get off on it too.

The first rule of anal sex is cleanliness.

The second is plenty of water based lube.

The third is to start slowly and work up slowly to full penetration and don't be afraid to say stop if it doesn't feel right.

The great thing about lesbian anal sex is that unlike a penis, you can choose the size of the dildo or vibrator.

BDSM

The term BDSM is an abbreviation from the terms Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism. It defines a range of behaviours including dominance, submission, punishment, role play and a large variety of other activities usually of a sexual nature.

Most important is your safety when engaging in these sexual practices. It's often useful to agree to use a safe word with your partner – particularly during role play - something totally non-related like "biscuit", then if you feel uncomfortable or frightened at any point during the session, you can say your safe word and your partner will stop.

Make sure any BDSM activity you engage in is consented to by all concerned.

Fisting

This is where you penetrate your partner's vagina or anus with your hand and / or your forearm. You should have your fingers straight and as close together as possible, and then slowly insert them into a very well lubricated vagina or anus.

Once insertion is complete, you may then clench your fist. The smallest movement of your hand may feel huge to her, so remember to take it slow and steady.

Rimming

Rimming is where you use your tongue to lick and penetrate your partner's anus. If you do want to take part in this practice then make sure your and her anus is always clean before you begin.

Rimming feels different for everyone and may or may not turn you on, so if the idea of licking your partner's arse doesn't do it for you, then simply don't.